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Disgusting Abuse ! Did you know about these types ?

Abuse has always been an issue of priority and it still is but it is shocking that even after all the strides that were taken, the cycle still continues. In this new age, abuse has evolved as well, but the known kinds of abuse are still there appalling enough. The Alpha’s code does not allow any victimization of empresses, help break the cycle. This is not just an Alpha code, it is a human code, something that needs collective action to work. My pain drove me to this post, it’s nothing personal but it must be. For all us. Spread the word, protect our empresses.

These are some of the abuse cases which still dominate our circles , some are often overlooked but today that ends.


Financial Abuse

This is subtle form of abuse yet it affects most relationships, especially among married people. Financial abuse is when an intimate partner has control over the other partner’s finances and controls the access to economic resources, which makes the survivor dependent on the abuser for support. Financial abuse happens often in physically abusive relationships as fear is already an instrument of control utilized by the abuser. In short, controlling the partner’s money.

Sisters remain quiet as they don’t want their men to look broke at the expense of their financial freedom.

Psychological and/or emotional abuse

It is a form of abuse, characterized by a person subjecting or exposing another person to behaviour that may result in psychological trauma, including anxiety and depression among a few others. In plain terms, any behaviours that can emotionally scar an empress, these include: Cheating, lying ,swearing ,body shaming, blackmail, Making derogative or slanderous statements about an individual to others, unwelcome name calling and threats of violence or abandonment threats.

Cyber Abuse

It is abuse that takes place over digital devices like cell phones, computers, and tablets. It can occur through SMS, Text, and apps, or online in social media and forums. This could include posting rumors, leaking private pictures /videosand online stalking. On that vein, going through an empresses texts, DMs, call logs, snaps etc. is a form of abuse. Privacy is a right therefore violation of it is abuse.

Sexual abuse

Undesired sexual acts done to a partner with perpetrators using force, making threats or taking advantage of survivorsnot able to give consent. Sexual abuse occurs even in relationships, marriage included. Sex is not confirmation of love which means threatening empresses to leave so as to get sex is also abuse, it is sexual and psychological. 

Empresses stay in abusive relationships because of culture, societal connotations of leaving a relationship and religion. Payment of bride price (lobola) being used to control empresses, making them feel obliged to do whatever the men wants and submit to abuse. 

Physical abuse

This is using physical force that injures or puts someone in danger. It happens a lot in dating or married relationships, but because of culture and social conditioning, empresses suffer in silence. This is one type that should be punishable by stoning. (Jokes) (two wrong don’t make a right unless if we could be allowed to practice ancient Israelite laws which would be ideal in this case). Point is in this time and age this shouldn’t be still a thing. An alpha should never put his hands on an empress, and there is no reason to justify the act.


Abuse points to the weaknesses of the person. It could be emotional, psychological or financial insecurities. Whatever the case is, Alphas protect their empresses , only assholes will harm women. ( Pardon my language, there is no respect for any man who lays his hands on an empress)

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