• Mind of a boyfriend

    About dating a “broke” Girlfriend

    Dear Girlfriends burn in this new found glory. Yes this post,the tables have turned. We’re in the end game now. I have to say I haven’t quite dated a rich girlfriend which automatically means this means war. ( I’m just playing, this isn’t about me or the people I’ve dated. Or their Rich Dads. See what I did there ? ) Writing this was as fun as hatching the idea. So to spice things up, think of a girl you know , rate them. Dating a broke girlfriend is like using a trial version of a software, eventually you are going to have to pay or spend way more to…

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    About being a broke boyfriend

    Broke. You know being broke. Sorry I won’t put a technical definition because we all know what being broke means. For those who insist, being broke is the inability to purchase the most basic of things to sustain a relationship. Ignore every other definition,this is the only one that matters. *** Being a broke boyfriend is equivalent to being a soldier with no gun. A broke boyfriend never buys anything for his lady, does movies at home and never gets cake or chocolate. ( cake is love currency) Broke boyfriend is good with words and selling a dream. That’s all stereotypical. This post is about the insecurities of being a…

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    About the time I was a ‘Main’

    Main. The driver’s seat , the ultimate role. This is not a drill, this is the build up we were preparing for. First things first, let me send a shout out to the woman who made me a main ( without a side, for as long as that lasted). She was the sweetest thing ever. Okay, back to the narrative. This is post that separates men from boys, grades them into the “boyfriend” and ultimately “hus-kings” to their Empresses.  *** Main refers to boyfriend or girlfriend based on Titles. These are the things they don’t tell you about. These are the things I found out on my own, like I…

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    Oh Glorious Situationship !

    You think you’re in a relationship ? Everything is there, the attention, the sparks and the butterflies but it all seems like you’re a continuous one night stand. Friends with endless benefits. Chances are you’re in a relationship, alone. That uncertainty, that grey area is a situationship .These are signs that you’re in a situationship : *** I. No titles ! On the previous post we talked about titles and their implications. If there is no title there is no relationship. Thought: Are you the boyfriend? Are you the Girlfriend? How do you know you’re the Main ? If you’re unsure of any of those answers, you’re probably in a…

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    Titles

    We live in a fast paced world where words mean nothing if they are not directed to us and could potentially shutter our world if they are. Titles, simple words that denote references and define nature of things. Nouns with role allocations. We defined what a boyfriend is and the answers were subjective and biased which made them specific to the person defining. This time we are going objective for the purpose of clarity and authenticity of our unfiltered views. Titles validate the type of relationship .Today we define everyday titles that drive the types of relationships we are in : *** 1. Girlfriend | noun ( aka Main chick/…

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    Dedications to Her

    Music is a language only the soul can fully understand. Everyone is connected by waves of sounds, it’s how we communicate. Kick everything old school or hit those new school vibes that feel like they belong in the 90s. Create a timeless playlist and update it once in a while. Speak to her through the songs that will make her teeth want to bite you. There’s nothing more profound than sharing music, it’s the language that talks when everything else has been spoken. It could be prophetic and suggestive, the power it has can turn a sorry to forgiveness, a no to how about lunch later. Whatever the case may…

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    One last pain story

    “Leave !, “No, wait stay longer!“ “You’ve had enough !, Jesus did not die for you to drown in relationship induced traumas!“ …. Shut Up !, I yelled in the deafening silence. I was alone. The echo bounced back and the wrath kicked in. So much pain. I watched the shower cough up the cold water that was about to deliver my much awaited torment. I sat there in agony. The parts of me that hurt were out of reach, the heart was functioning fine but I could feel the holes that were re opened. My mind knew i was just being a wimp but the voices couldnt let me…

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    Just an Option

    “Love. Pain. Stupidity. Perfect trio. Everything that comes in threes is true and if it rhymes it’s gospel. *** ” Here is my gospel to you. An epistle written in tears and smiles. To get to you I had to beat all odds just to crack the code to your heart. A destiny hack because I never pictured you in my world but here you are rocking every bit of it.A tornado of affection. Through the pain, I learnt patience, I learnt tolerance and I learnt how to play candy crush. The wages of love are wounds apparently as I am constantly reminded by my stupid little mind… But here…

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