• Dating

    Things you should consider before getting into a relationship

    Before you get in a relationship, there are a few things you need to consider. Relationships are not candycrush, pushing a few shades here and hints there won’t make anything sweet. Approach a relationship like choosing a course, or something as serious. I’m not here to preach, but if the gospel of relationship works, by all means pay attention to these things : Have  a checklist Before you jump in a relationship, establish your checklist. Vibes don’t pay the bills and looks certainly don’t mean good character. Have a list of things you need in a person, that way you set a standard for yourself. People are like a buffet,…

  • Mind of a boyfriend

    Till death do us part

    [ Disclaimer: This piece may contain sensitive topics that may make some people feel uncomfortable. Content might be triggering to GBV survivors.Names used and incidents are the products of the author's imagination ] The thunder rumbled through our sparsely furnished house which made it feel like my soul. Empty. My head was deep in the toilet bowl, I was puking my guts out. The vodka I used to wash down my beer was not sitting well with the rest of alcohol in my system. Everything spun, my throat gave in each time and I would curl up after each heave. The lightness of my head alternated with a rhythmic throbbing…

  • Dating

    Disrespect in relationships

    Respect makes everything better but when people get comfortable they become monsters. Some levels of entitlement are the basis of disrespect in relationships. Sometimes,  it’s just too much comfort, or popayism from the other person. Or whatever. Failing to Communicate There’s nothing as infuriating as a bad communicator. It’s dangerous to work on assumptions or vibes alone, communication makes things clear. If you don’t want something say it, if you’re angry express it and if you’re tired of the relationship say it. Don’t resort to starting a new relationship without ending the one you’re in because you can’t communicate. Going through their phone Yes transparency is necessary,  so is privacy.…

  • Dating,  Mind of a boyfriend

    Popayism explained

    Popayism(Po- pa- yi- zim ) Verb. ¹ The act of ignoring reality all in the name of love to a point where it becomes comical.² Acting like a cartoon in real life events. “I can change him/her” Your best bet is changing the color of the sky. While you’re at it, tame a piranha. Personality solidifies at a young age, attitudes form over time and character is crafted with experience. Can you change all that ? Without witchcraft? If you can, you’re invited to join our Mr Magoo cast. He’ll leave his wife Uhmm. Okay. She doesn’t care about money Justifying being broke won’t change that money is relationship makeup.…

  • Dating

    Finally, a topic about the Committee

    After the male bestfriend and the female bestfriend of course,  the most hated group on earth is the committee. These are the people who make decisions for you. The CCTVs of your every move and quite frankly these people can call out your BS. They could be good,  they could be your worst nightmare as the boyfriend/girlfriend but believe me, they’re not your friends. Your partner’s friends are not your friends. The committee has different personalities,  these are some common ones : The one who wishes to be you This is common but doesn’t mean there’s always that person in your committee. The person who low key wants your girl/man…

  • Grooming and Fitness,  Mind of a boyfriend

    How to become an “Alpha Boyfriend” – Edited

    Anyone can be a boyfriend but not everyone can master being an alpha. Don’t have your woman envy other men simply because you don’t cut it as an alpha. It’s the simple things that can make you an alpha, pay attention and master these simple hacks. I. Smell Good There’s something about a person who smells good. It’s a non verbal clue that speaks volumes about your personality. Clean organised people are usually focused on certain things and pay attention to detail. The scent should be an all rounder, from your mouth to your shoes. II. Dress Well The street wear craze is cute, it’s artistic and all. I’m actually…

  • Creative Content

    Ishuu !

    “Stop being a girl”, Malume barked at me, his aura reeked of disappointment. Showing emotions as a man was equivalent to castration in his reality. I needed to cry my pain out. The burden of supressing the fire burning my soul was harder than accepting my new reality. I was single again. Rejected by the one woman who understood the combination to my heart’s rhythmic beats. Frankly speaking, I should have handled my situation better after all she was pregnant. With someone’s child. My best friend, Jack. Malume was hell bent on unleashing his past life demons and beating Jack to a pulp. I don’t blame him, I would have…

  • Creative Content

    Umjolo, The Dating : Part 4

    Umjolo, The Buhlungus The air was as light as my head then. My anxiety was screaming as loud as Bosso fans, this was it. The plan was going my way. Nothing ever went my way which made me uneasy. Life had a thing of showing me none of my plans mattered. The true life of a Zimbabwean boyfriend. I mean if everything were up to me I would have been home enjoying my boyfriend allowance. Probably expecting my weekly data top up from Fia. But here I was, on my way to confront her. My only consolation was YV was with me the whole way. Never trust exs. That’s the…

  • Creative Content

    Umjolo, The Dating : Part 3

    Umjolo, The Pandemic ” Ezinkulu ! You’re here to take her home” One of the police officers at the station shrieked. The bearded hero nodded, he never said a word. Mysterious. Maybe he had no teeth. I was really hoping he had no teeth to even the competition. Ashuu ! This man was the “don’t worry about him” incarnation. He was everything I wanted to be. Rich, powerful enough to steal ladies and a beard. He must have had a very handsome pocket to be noticed by the police. Or he was famous. Maybe both. That take her home part stuck. I felt my heart shred into many pieces. Whose…

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