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    About “Mastering Long Distance Relationships”

    Relationships are the stuff of legends. They are fascinating . The long awkward stares, the sweet nothings we say and the funny smiles. The connection that rips your soul out and gives it a gentle massage and a happy ending. There’s nothing more beautiful that sharing attention, respect , care , trust and chemistry. All these little elements bring a profound bond that locks the rest of the world out. The problems that arise from within can only be understood and solved by those involved and the feeling of going through a storm together is only matched by winning the lottery. Add distance to the mix, then everything changes. Long…

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    What turns ladies off – Discussion 02

    What turns ladies off is about the scariest thing to know. What if everything you’ve been doing is a turn off ? How do you fix something that has been engraved in your personality ? Simple, unlearn it if it’s a behavior. If it’s something physically impossible to fix it then she can deal with or shove it up her futsek ! ( Hahaha imagine if it was actually allowed to say that, that would make us the greatest hypocrites) . This post is about the things that can be fixed. What Gives ? There are a lot of things men do not know. Ego comes first and they believe…

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    Roles of a Boyfriend- Discussion 01

    Roles of a boyfriend. Sounds like a full job with a corner office, a medical aid benefit and pension lined up. Recently, the roles have been confusing. They’re mostly stuck between husband , friend with benefit, ATM and father. To clear the air, we will discuss this. ( Post your views in the Comment section) What are the roles of a boyfriend ? ( Your opinion) Honestly the mature role of a boyfriend is to give emotional support. A boyfriend should be a support system, offering love and care to his girlfriend which of course should be reciprocated. Financial support should be the cherry on top in a relationship not…

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    About “Being yourself in a relationship”

    A person who has no life will make the relationship their life and that will drain your life. That’s just one scenario, an extreme one for that matter. So, you’re in love ? Your partner is your everything and so you compromise so much to make it make, or everything is actually just perfect. Now, the problem is you are spiraling out your own lane, and you are losing yourself. Remember, what makes you work as a couple are the differences you both possess. Stay yourself. So how do you continue being yourself in a relationship ? PERSONAL SPACE & TIME While you want to spend most of your time…

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    About Spotting “Toxic People”

    Toxic people are everywhere. EVERYTHING . I cannot begin to count all the people I’ve had to escape. ( All 4 of them ). But do not mistake boring or annoying people for being toxic, some people are naturally undesirable. The odd thing is the most toxic people are the ones closest to you. The ones that have enough ammunition to crucify you. Them showing teeth doesn’t mean they’re always smiling, that could be them biting. Wouldn’t you want to know the traits of your Judases ? Crazy how relationships can get at times, Judas had his feet washed by his master at some point . How can you really…

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    About “ Lockdown vs Relationships”

    Lockdown. The stuff of horrors and every apocalyptic movie ever. It’s crazy out here, shops are closed, liquor stores are closed even the churches are closed and some of us are due for confessions. With everything closed, relationships are carrying the most strains. Relationships are basically Liverpool in this season, the end of the tunnel isn’t lit. Relationships trends are just depressing right now, but some people are having their best lives. So let’s try listing what’s happening right now. What are we questions Too much time on our hands and hormones flying around like that one time there was a cloud of locusts. And in all that, humans decide…

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    About ” Dealing with differences in your Relationship”

    Dealing with differences in your relationship sounds simple. No two people are alike, not even soulmates. We all have different value systems, beliefs and preferences but that doesn’t mean we’re incompatible. It’s in dealing with these were perfection lies. If you and your empress/emperor are having trouble resolving a difference in opinion, you might like to consider the following. Walk a mile in their shoes Perspective is everything. Try to see things from their point of view and see if that does not change the way you see something. Some values and systems are hard to adapt to or understand from your own personal spectrum, shift focus and use their…

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    About “ Red Flags to look out for” – Hers

    Red flags to look out for in a relationship. RED. FLAGS. Okay, let’s get right to it. You’ve probably heard someone being called toxic in a relationship or there’s that friend of yours who dated that one girl who seemed to abuse her. It usually starts off well. But let’s skip the whole introduction. So what kind of red flags are we looking for. Below are some of the common red flags that researchers and therapists recommend you look for in a relationship. ( It scared me too I know, people actually research and test humans on this ) 1. You can’t stand any of her friends. You don’t need…

  • Staying in a relationship for the wrong reasons is a drag. A loving, committed, supportive relationship is one of the best feelings on Earth. That only works if you're there because your heart is in the right place.
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    About “Staying in a relationship for the wrong reasons”

    Staying in a relationship for the wrong reasons is a drag. A loving, committed, supportive relationship is one of the best feelings on Earth. That only works if you’re there because your heart is in the right place. Although we might not realize it sometimes, many of us are staying in a relationship for the wrong reasons. And if you’re not in a relationship for the pure reasons of love and happiness, you might quickly find that you either get bored and exhausted of it, or the relationship just ends anyway. Through the drama, the thrill, the chemistry, relationships grow and the infatuation stages fades. What’s left is love and…

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    About “Signs that you’re dating yourself”

    Relationships are a two player game. Nothing more , nothing less. Most relations begin at a high note and over time, the energy fades and eventually it becomes one player. If you start noticing the following signs, know that the love is one way; You text a whole scroll, the response comes in one sentence. People in love will always have a lot to talk about. However, if you realize that in most occasions that you communicate with your partner, the response you get is just a mere word, one emoji or no response at all, just start packing because you are not required in this relationship. You are dating yourself.…

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