Red flags to look out for in a relationship. RED. FLAGS. Okay, let’s get right to it. You’ve probably heard someone being called toxic in a relationship or there’s that friend of yours who dated that one girl who seemed to abuse her. It usually starts off well. But let’s skip the whole introduction.
So what kind of red flags are we looking for. Below are some of the common red flags that researchers and therapists recommend you look for in a relationship. ( It scared me too I know, people actually research and test humans on this )
1. You can’t stand any of her friends.
You don’t need to be “besties” with her friends, but if the thought of spending an hour with one of them makes you drown yourself , then you might have reason to be concerned about your relationship with your gal. There’s wisdom in the old adage, “Birds of a feather flock together.” Your significant other likely has a lot in common with her friends — similar interests, temperaments, and beliefs. Because you’re not dating the friends, you’re more likely to notice their ill behaviors and attitudes. But because you’re infatuated with your gal, you’re likely ignoring or overlooking these same behaviors and attitudes coming from her. Remember, friendship are forged on some similar grounds.
2. She expects to be treated like a Boss
When one person comes into a relationship with a sense of entitlement and expectation that his or her needs should always come before the other person’s, resentment, contempt, and anger are usually the results. Be on the lookout for subtle hints that your partner has the “bossy” mentality.
3. You argue likes it’s your job
There’s nothing wrong with conflict in a relationship. It’s completely normal, and in fact healthy at times. But if all you do is argue, then there’s a problem. There should be a balance.
4. Never takes responsibility
If she never apologizes for her wrong actions. Need I say more ?.
5. She doesn’t show appreciation
A little appreciation goes a long way. If your girlfriend rarely notices and thanks you for the nice things you do, such stinginess will eventually ruin your relationships. Stay alert.
She badmouths all her exes and says they’re all thrash. If they are all thrash and she’s telling the truth what does it say about her judgment. What is about her personality that draws trash. It means you’re probably that too.