Dating,  Mind of a boyfriend

Are you in an adoptionship?

An adoptionship? What is this you speak of Human, you may ask. Let me explain ( I feel this phrase is going to stick). Some people feel entitled in relationships to the point of acting like they have no families or friends. A boyfriend/girlfriend isn’t a meal ticket. Fair?

An adoptionship is a malicious process whereby someone’s child assumes the parenting of another grown human , usually a girlfriend (if it’s a boyfriend that’s a tender) , from that person’s biological or legal parent or parents without knowing.

Related : Girlfriend allowance, “I know my worth”, “You can’t lobola me with that”

How to Evaluate this

You only give

Like how we treat parents, you only get gifts on valentine’s and your birthday. If you get a gift outside those days, you’ll feel slight disorientation and a high level of insecurity.

You play the wrong roles

Be sweet, be romantic and be supportive, just don’t be stupid. If you can’t tell your friends and family about the things you do for them, chances are you’re doing it wrong. Rent, their family medical expenses, groceries that your mother has never tasted, a house your father doesn’t have. If you’re playing those, adoptionship. Makes sense?

You disagree with what I just said

I said it. Jokes aside. A relationship should be a partnership not a sponsorship deal which is mostly transactional. I know if you love someone you’ll do anything for them .. ( ANYTHING?! Come on, you’re better than that. You’re not the only person they have. Play your own role. Wait for marriage if slavery is what you seek.)


  • Sihlobo Bulala

    πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚”wait for marriage if slavery is all you seek.” You really hit the nail on this one. Some people have a sickening sense of entitlement and I always say this ….make sure you are dependant on other people for things which you’re also capable of fending for yourself otherwise don’t be comfortable with requiring that all be done for you. It gets tiring!

    • Boyfriend

      I think right now our biggest nemesis is social media, the expectations it’s puts on people are just sick. We place value in substances not the people

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