Before you get in a relationship, there are a few things you need to consider. Relationships are not candycrush, pushing a few shades here and hints there won’t make anything sweet. Approach a relationship like choosing a course, or something as serious. I’m not here to preach, but if the gospel of relationship works, by all means pay attention to these things : Have a checklist Before you jump in a relationship, establish your checklist. Vibes don’t pay the bills and looks certainly don’t mean good character. Have a list of things you need in a person, that way you set a standard for yourself. People are like a buffet,…
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Disrespect in relationships
Respect makes everything better but when people get comfortable they become monsters. Some levels of entitlement are the basis of disrespect in relationships. Sometimes, it’s just too much comfort, or popayism from the other person. Or whatever. Failing to Communicate There’s nothing as infuriating as a bad communicator. It’s dangerous to work on assumptions or vibes alone, communication makes things clear. If you don’t want something say it, if you’re angry express it and if you’re tired of the relationship say it. Don’t resort to starting a new relationship without ending the one you’re in because you can’t communicate. Going through their phone Yes transparency is necessary, so is privacy.…
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Why being single in your mid 20s is better
Reasons why being single in your mid 20s is better
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Popayism explained
Popayism(Po- pa- yi- zim ) Verb. ¹ The act of ignoring reality all in the name of love to a point where it becomes comical.² Acting like a cartoon in real life events. “I can change him/her” Your best bet is changing the color of the sky. While you’re at it, tame a piranha. Personality solidifies at a young age, attitudes form over time and character is crafted with experience. Can you change all that ? Without witchcraft? If you can, you’re invited to join our Mr Magoo cast. He’ll leave his wife Uhmm. Okay. She doesn’t care about money Justifying being broke won’t change that money is relationship makeup.…
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Finally, a topic about the Committee
After the male bestfriend and the female bestfriend of course, the most hated group on earth is the committee. These are the people who make decisions for you. The CCTVs of your every move and quite frankly these people can call out your BS. They could be good, they could be your worst nightmare as the boyfriend/girlfriend but believe me, they’re not your friends. Your partner’s friends are not your friends. The committee has different personalities, these are some common ones : The one who wishes to be you This is common but doesn’t mean there’s always that person in your committee. The person who low key wants your girl/man…
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Their Male bestfriend- Discussion
The holy grail of topics, well after cheating and gossip topics of course. How do you keep your cool and security intact in a scenario where her bestfriend is a guy ? Jealousy and insecurity are very unattractive and cancerous but how on earth do you keep those in check when Bestie is there ? These people have been friends before you even came to the picture. Chances are the reason why she said yes was because of him, ever thought of that ? And that’s also scary, if he has that much influence, what else can he achieve. What if he’s madly in love with your girlfriend and he’s…
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About Dating Yourself – ReUP
Relationships are a two player game. Nothing more , nothing less. Most relations begin at a high note and over time, the energy fades and eventually it becomes one player. If you start noticing the following signs, know that the love is one way; You text a whole scroll, the response comes in one sentence. People in love will always have a lot to talk about. However, if you realize that in most occasions that you communicate with your partner, the response you get is just a mere word, one emoji or no response at all, just start packing because you are not required in this relationship. You are dating yourself.…
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About Spotting “Toxic people “
Toxic people are everywhere. EVERYWHERE. I cannot begin to count all the people I’ve had to escape. ( All 4 of them ). But do not mistake boring or annoying people for being toxic, some people are naturally undesirable. The odd thing is the most toxic people are the ones closest to you. The ones that have enough ammunition to crucify you. Them showing teeth doesn’t mean they’re always smiling, that could be them biting. Wouldn’t you want to know the traits of your Judases ? Crazy how relationships can get at times, Judas had his feet washed by his master at some point . How can you really tell if someone…
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About “Mastering Long Distance Relationships”
Relationships are the stuff of legends. They are fascinating . The long awkward stares, the sweet nothings we say and the funny smiles. The connection that rips your soul out and gives it a gentle massage and a happy ending. There’s nothing more beautiful that sharing attention, respect , care , trust and chemistry. All these little elements bring a profound bond that locks the rest of the world out. The problems that arise from within can only be understood and solved by those involved and the feeling of going through a storm together is only matched by winning the lottery. Add distance to the mix, then everything changes. Long distance…
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About “Being yourself in a relationship”
A person who has no life will make the relationship their life and that will drain your life. That’s just one scenario, an extreme one for that matter. So, you’re in love ? Your partner is your everything and so you compromise so much to make it make, or everything is actually just perfect. Now, the problem is you are spiraling out your own lane, and you are losing yourself. Remember, what makes you work as a couple are the differences you both possess. Stay yourself. So how do you continue being yourself in a relationship ? PERSONAL SPACE & TIME While you want to spend most of your time with…
