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    How To Make Long Distance Relationships Work

    Long distance relationships are the stuff of legends. They are fascinating . They don’t have the long awkwardly electric stares, the sweet nothings we whisper and the shy smiles. The cuddles. All these little elements that foster a profound connection which are very physical. So how can we make long distance relationships work past a few months? Long distance relationship are a different ball game. The closest link between our beating hearts is technology and trust. Long distance relationships leverage more on tech and creativity. These still work regardless of all the forces against long distance couples. The downside is, people are different, so that means it all depends on their…

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    Stop forcing things

    Stop forcing things. Happiness is not tied to a person so why force things that could potentially ruin your peace. Relationships shouldn’t feel like a war zone every time. They shouldn’t make you blind to reality either. There’s no point in watering a dead plant. ( Well unless if you believe you’d fall in love with a zombie , if that’s the case ,Do you ). For your peace of mind and sanity, learn to put yourself first. Take your eyes and mind when you sink in love, you’ll have clear sight of what’s happening and logic to navigate. That is a long introduction ! We’ve been talking about this…

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    Umjolo Interview : Questions to ask

    This is a follow up to “We need a dating resume“. Umjolo is serious business! Yeah, if it’s meant to be it will happen but who will teach the kids Maths Susan? Can your back handle things? Are you in debt? Does your father have medical aid? See, it all matters. These are questions you should ask yourself when thinking long term. ( Not a small dating tender). These are not to make you bail from your relationship, they’re just a guide to see where you could improve. Compromise. ( or worst case re evaluate the whole relationship) The Questions to Ask Do you and your partner accept each other for…

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    Why they don’t want a relationship with you?

    You click with them but they don’t pop the question. And this happens with a couple of guys and you think maybe you’re the problem. ( which is quite possible so let’s go with that angle.) They treat you just right and you at times feel like they’re the one. ( Ladies/ Gents really). So what are you doing wrong? Let’s get to it, these are all hypothetical but if this hypothetical shoe fits, remove it and burn it. You send missed signals You’re hot then you’re cold You’re “Yes” then you’re “No” You’re in then you’re out You’re up then you’re down  Katy Perry Signals have to match the message. Imagine if a zebra crossing line was coupled with a no stopping sign. That’s my…

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    What men think about Make Up

    What men think about Make Up is really none of their business. Let’s face it, half the time women put make up to impress their peers or compete with that one girl who said her weave was better. Or something about “new me” after a break up. Well whatever the reasons are for make up, despite being none of our business, we men have thoughts on the subject. The Positive Make up is pretty. It accentuates certain features, the eyes pop, the contours create that dramatic feel. And the lashes! We don’t get those but they’re cute. Depending on the length. Make Up gives ladies this alter ego that comes…

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    Clear signs the person you’re dating is worth your time

    So much negativity going around in relationships, this is to tell you it’s all bad. These are the signs that the person you’re dating is right for you and is worth your time. ( Of course they might be some differences ) You are comfortable with who you are Not itching to impress your potential  is essential, that way they can get to know the real you, with no filters. If you feel comfortable enough to let your guard down and be yourself,I don’t mean wearing crocs,  that is a great sign that your relationship is heading in on the right tracks. They keep their word Green Flag central .Doing what they say…

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    Are you in an adoptionship?

    An adoptionship? What is this you speak of Human, you may ask. Let me explain ( I feel this phrase is going to stick). Some people feel entitled in relationships to the point of acting like they have no families or friends. A boyfriend/girlfriend isn’t a meal ticket. Fair? An adoptionship is a malicious process whereby someone’s child assumes the parenting of another grown human , usually a girlfriend (if it’s a boyfriend that’s a tender) , from that person’s biological or legal parent or parents without knowing. Related : Girlfriend allowance, “I know my worth”, “You can’t lobola me with that” How to Evaluate this You only give Like…

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    We need a Dating Resume!

    Hello Humans, You read that right, we need a résumé e to go with the talking phase and whatever comes after. Don’t get me wrong, it doesn’t have to be something typed out (but that would be cool), but the contents of it matters. Let me explain what I mean. We jump into relationships with emotions flying all over, following “vibes” but we miss the little essential questions that could make or break a relationship. So we need to approach how we get to know people like we’re making a Resume for them. We need to avoid popayism at all costs. Makes sense? When you’re accepting resumes/CV, there are requirements…

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    Maybe you’re the problem

    Have you ever considered that maybe, just maybe they’re right and you’re wrong ? Fights erupt, relationships fail, bad blood forms and the constant is you. Do you ever just think that maybe you’re the problem? Let’s run diagnosis , a little introspection to see if you need help : You’re always right Ladies ignore this. We know, by default innit. Jokes aside, if you never admit you’re wrong then chances are you’re the epicenter of the problem. It’s possible to be right most of the time but to a point that the whole world is wrong. I mean the church, the news, your friends and everyone can’t be wrong.…

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    7 Things you should consider before getting into a relationship

    Before you get in a relationship, there are a few things you need to consider. Relationships are not candycrush, pushing a few shades here and hints there won’t make anything sweet. Approach a relationship like choosing a course, or something as serious. I’m not here to preach, but if the gospel of relationship works, by all means pay attention to these things : Have  a checklist Before you jump in a relationship, establish your checklist. Vibes don’t pay the bills and looks certainly don’t mean good character. Have a list of things you need in a person, that way you set a standard for yourself. People are like a buffet,…

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