You are not dating your friends Yes I said it, you are not dating your friends, let that sink. Since time immemorial, there’s been an invisible war between partners and friends and for some odd reason the gospel says “thou shalt not choose thy bae before thy bros”. Is your bro going to cuddle you when it’s cold ?Is your hommie going to put his head on your chest when you fantasize nonsense and dream big ? Let’s be practical for a minute. ( Ladies, is Susan going to kiss you goodnight) Bros before uhmm The main scripture of the single men’s club. ( men’s club). Bros come before randos…
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Random thought #7 – Feminism & Men
We talk of feminism the wrong way. Our strategy is more focused on imposition of the ideology onto to the masses ( who are mostly male) and not on the nurturing of the masses with adequate knowledge to yield understanding and acceptance. You c
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Signs of an Abusive Partner
GBV is still an issue in this day and age and it’s appalling that it’s still happening. I wrote this with a heavy heart and broken spirits. The statistics of victimized women out there, the brutalities against minors and partners still have the nerve to abuse their counter parts. It’s disgusting what some humans are capable of doing, like I said. This is written is pain, in hopes that predicting some abusive traits will save a soul. I. STALKING Stalking seems cute at first. It appears as it’s checking up on you. It progresses to a psychotic possessive toxic trait. If your partner someone wants you to account for everything…
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About Spotting “Toxic People”
Toxic people are everywhere. EVERYTHING . I cannot begin to count all the people I’ve had to escape. ( All 4 of them ). But do not mistake boring or annoying people for being toxic, some people are naturally undesirable. The odd thing is the most toxic people are the ones closest to you. The ones that have enough ammunition to crucify you. Them showing teeth doesn’t mean they’re always smiling, that could be them biting. Wouldn’t you want to know the traits of your Judases ? Crazy how relationships can get at times, Judas had his feet washed by his master at some point . How can you really…
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The Beauty of Being Single – feature 02
It is not a rosy path that I am about to lead you on. This journey probably begins with you crawling to the corner of your room, curling yourself into a delicate ball of misery, and your shattered heart out. It doesn’t matter who broke up with who. The end result remains the same; a heart that had learned how to beat for two people needs to relearn how to sing a solo and the first song is always the saddest. Mourn, break apart, grieve. When you’re done, fed up with the storm and all its lightning and thunder, come with me and we’ll find that rainbow and the pot…
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7 Things Boyfriends do wrong
Men have given themselves pride in being the fountains of knowledge. They have unearthed great mysterious and discovered groundbreaking information about the universe. I mean they have created and destroyed governments just by using words. Their power comes from their knowledge of things but sad enough Men do not know women. Men do things and tell their friends they nailed it when they straight up annoyed or grossed out their women. Or worse. * Women are not experiments, objects or mere matter which makes it challenging for men to understand how women operate. There’s no scientific or mathematical equation to comprehend women and yet men (me excluded), still want to…
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Make peace with your ex- Feature 01
‘Make peace with your past’ the cliche is probably as old as time itself. Time itself has revealed that it heals all the pain… well to those who confront their pain and deal with it. Time is the constant you are the reactant! So the sooner you react and deal with source of your pain the sooner you will heal. So yes… ‘make peace with your ex’ because he/she is part of your past, a past that can never be escaped nor erased. You might be reading this thinking maybe I am probably asking you to dine with your ex … No! It’s no secret breakups can leave you hurt…
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About “Mastering Long Distance Relationships”
Relationships are the stuff of legends. They are fascinating . The long awkward stares, the sweet nothings we say and the funny smiles. The connection that rips your soul out and gives it a gentle massage and a happy ending. There’s nothing more beautiful that sharing attention, respect , care , trust and chemistry. All these little elements bring a profound bond that locks the rest of the world out. The problems that arise from within can only be understood and solved by those involved and the feeling of going through a storm together is only matched by winning the lottery. Add distance to the mix, then everything changes. Long…
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What turns ladies off – Discussion 02
What turns ladies off is about the scariest thing to know. What if everything you’ve been doing is a turn off ? How do you fix something that has been engraved in your personality ? Simple, unlearn it if it’s a behavior. If it’s something physically impossible to fix it then she can deal with or shove it up her futsek ! ( Hahaha imagine if it was actually allowed to say that, that would make us the greatest hypocrites) . This post is about the things that can be fixed. What Gives ? There are a lot of things men do not know. Ego comes first and they believe…
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Roles of a Boyfriend- Discussion 01
Roles of a boyfriend. Sounds like a full job with a corner office, a medical aid benefit and pension lined up. Recently, the roles have been confusing. They’re mostly stuck between husband , friend with benefit, ATM and father. To clear the air, we will discuss this. ( Post your views in the Comment section) What are the roles of a boyfriend ? ( Your opinion) Honestly the mature role of a boyfriend is to give emotional support. A boyfriend should be a support system, offering love and care to his girlfriend which of course should be reciprocated. Financial support should be the cherry on top in a relationship not…
