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    How to get over your ex

    How to get over your ex sounds too ambitious. Let’s go with how to detox them instead. It’s a process and it’s not an easy one. A lot goes into it especially if the relationship was a long one. But it can be done, small steps. Clear your chest When you do break up, there are a lot of emotions flying around. Those could be hurt, anger, disappointment, whatever they are, resolve them. The final talk you have with them should be the only closure you need. Depending on the circumstances of the break up, get ‘why’ answered. Then accept that it didn’t work out. ( Don’t blame yourself if…

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    Soaking – What is it anyways?

    Just when you thought you’ve heard it all, Mormon teens show us the world is innovative. Soaking! It’s not what you think. Soaking is penetration without thrusting, no movement, no orgasms. It is when a man puts his penis in woman’s vagina and stays still. That’s not even the crazy part… In order for the couple to actually enjoy from soaking, a friend helps them out by bouncing on the bed next to them to get things moving, or “jump-humping.” And you know what’s crazier? This whole ‘soaking’ bit went viral on Tik Tok with over 25.5 Million tags. Could this be the new excuse for cheating?

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    Umjolo Interview : Questions to ask

    This is a follow up to “We need a dating resume“. Umjolo is serious business! Yeah, if it’s meant to be it will happen but who will teach the kids Maths Susan? Can your back handle things? Are you in debt? Does your father have medical aid? See, it all matters. These are questions you should ask yourself when thinking long term. ( Not a small dating tender). These are not to make you bail from your relationship, they’re just a guide to see where you could improve. Compromise. ( or worst case re evaluate the whole relationship) The Questions to Ask Do you and your partner accept each other for…

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    Why they don’t want a relationship with you?

    You click with them but they don’t pop the question. And this happens with a couple of guys and you think maybe you’re the problem. ( which is quite possible so let’s go with that angle.) They treat you just right and you at times feel like they’re the one. ( Ladies/ Gents really). So what are you doing wrong? Let’s get to it, these are all hypothetical but if this hypothetical shoe fits, remove it and burn it. You send missed signals You’re hot then you’re cold You’re “Yes” then you’re “No” You’re in then you’re out You’re up then you’re down  Katy Perry Signals have to match the message. Imagine if a zebra crossing line was coupled with a no stopping sign. That’s my…

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    Clear signs the person you’re dating is worth your time

    So much negativity going around in relationships, this is to tell you it’s all bad. These are the signs that the person you’re dating is right for you and is worth your time. ( Of course they might be some differences ) You are comfortable with who you are Not itching to impress your potential  is essential, that way they can get to know the real you, with no filters. If you feel comfortable enough to let your guard down and be yourself,I don’t mean wearing crocs,  that is a great sign that your relationship is heading in on the right tracks. They keep their word Green Flag central .Doing what they say…

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    What are we?

    What are we? Really? I could think of a lot of savage responses to answer that but failing to answer that question is cruelty. Question interpretation ” I see what we’re doing, I’ve caught feelings and I would like to know if there’s a future in this or I should start looking for a pet to love …Or we do what I want” Thoughts I honestly don’t see the reason to get to that point, people need to be clear about their intentions. It’s not fair to lead someone on just to have them “see how it goes”. Titles matter as much as each stage of a relationship. There’s no…

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    Her Red flags : Mind of a Girlfriend P.O.V

    Let’s go over red flags to look out for in the dating phase. Boyfriend, the aim is to lessen or avoid the heartbreaks that come with mjolo. Because you matter. By the way, a red flag is a sign or warning of any impending danger, disaster or doom. Let’s not waste time and jump right on it. 🚩 Condescending A woman who treats you like a child. Dear boyfriend say aaaah. Open wide. In comes a spoonful of disrespect. Swallow baby, it’s good for your health. Your eyesight maybe! To help you see that allowing a woman to take a superiority role/tone over you in the early stages of dating…

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    Expectations Versus Reality : Relationships

    So many people are caught in limbo for so long and lose touch with reality. Social media gives this pseudo-reality that comes with expectations that may be true in fantasies and Telemundo. This is a relationship version of what you buy online and what you get. Or what you order over the counter and what you get. … This piece is a collaboration between myself (His) and Nicole (Hers) , Humanity Boss, and this is what we have to say. ( Go check out her blog, you’ll thank me, and probably have to pay me). … His : Happiness is found in a relationship If you can’t happiness on your…

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    This is what they don’t tell you about relationships.

    It’s been a long time coming and it’s here. Humans, I finally got the opportunity to collaborate with the Humanity Boss herself, Nicole. … Selfies, matching socks, wallpapers or whatever! The stuff of dreams. The idea of a relationship has a lot of us imagining things and daydreaming till we start believing love songs. The truth is, relationships are beautiful. Who wouldn’t want to be pampered and given pet names or flaunted like the most precious gem on earth? But, relationships in all honesty aren’t sunshines all year, otherwise they’d be illegal or sanctioned or even turned into some form of edible. So here are the things they don’t tell…

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    Why I’m single. Relate?

    I’ve been asked why I’m single a couple of times like it’s a handicap. ( Or maybe it is, I don’t know anymore). These are MY reasons, you could relate. Let’s jump right into it. I am tired Relationship are beautiful and all but I am tired. For now. I don’t have the energy to talk and try to build something from scratch only to feel void. I don’t think a relationship is what I need right now. And I don’t want to know a new person’s favorite color, what they’re doing every few minutes and definitely don’t have energy for you-hang-up arguments. I am broke Yes. I am broke…

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