[ Disclaimer: This piece may contain sensitive topics that may make some people feel uncomfortable. Content might be triggering to GBV survivors.Names used and incidents are the products of the author's imagination ] The thunder rumbled through our sparsely furnished house which made it feel like my soul. Empty. My head was deep in the toilet bowl, I was puking my guts out. The vodka I used to wash down my beer was not sitting well with the rest of alcohol in my system. Everything spun, my throat gave in each time and I would curl up after each heave. The lightness of my head alternated with a rhythmic throbbing…
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Popayism explained
Popayism(Po- pa- yi- zim ) Verb. ¹ The act of ignoring reality all in the name of love to a point where it becomes comical.² Acting like a cartoon in real life events. “I can change him/her” Your best bet is changing the color of the sky. While you’re at it, tame a piranha. Personality solidifies at a young age, attitudes form over time and character is crafted with experience. Can you change all that ? Without witchcraft? If you can, you’re invited to join our Mr Magoo cast. He’ll leave his wife Uhmm. Okay. She doesn’t care about money Justifying being broke won’t change that money is relationship makeup.…
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How to become an “Alpha Boyfriend” – Edited
Anyone can be a boyfriend but not everyone can master being an alpha. Don’t have your woman envy other men simply because you don’t cut it as an alpha. It’s the simple things that can make you an alpha, pay attention and master these simple hacks. I. Smell Good There’s something about a person who smells good. It’s a non verbal clue that speaks volumes about your personality. Clean organised people are usually focused on certain things and pay attention to detail. The scent should be an all rounder, from your mouth to your shoes. II. Dress Well The street wear craze is cute, it’s artistic and all. I’m actually…
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You’re not dating your friends
You are not dating your friends Yes I said it, you are not dating your friends, let that sink. Since time immemorial, there’s been an invisible war between partners and friends and for some odd reason the gospel says “thou shalt not choose thy bae before thy bros”. Is your bro going to cuddle you when it’s cold ?Is your hommie going to put his head on your chest when you fantasize nonsense and dream big ? Let’s be practical for a minute. ( Ladies, is Susan going to kiss you goodnight) Bros before uhmm The main scripture of the single men’s club. ( men’s club). Bros come before randos…
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Random thought #7 – Feminism & Men
We talk of feminism the wrong way. Our strategy is more focused on imposition of the ideology onto to the masses ( who are mostly male) and not on the nurturing of the masses with adequate knowledge to yield understanding and acceptance. You c
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Signs of an Abusive Partner
GBV is still an issue in this day and age and it’s appalling that it’s still happening. I wrote this with a heavy heart and broken spirits. The statistics of victimized women out there, the brutalities against minors and partners still have the nerve to abuse their counter parts. It’s disgusting what some humans are capable of doing, like I said. This is written is pain, in hopes that predicting some abusive traits will save a soul. I. STALKING Stalking seems cute at first. It appears as it’s checking up on you. It progresses to a psychotic possessive toxic trait. If your partner someone wants you to account for everything…
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About Spotting “Toxic People”
Toxic people are everywhere. EVERYTHING . I cannot begin to count all the people I’ve had to escape. ( All 4 of them ). But do not mistake boring or annoying people for being toxic, some people are naturally undesirable. The odd thing is the most toxic people are the ones closest to you. The ones that have enough ammunition to crucify you. Them showing teeth doesn’t mean they’re always smiling, that could be them biting. Wouldn’t you want to know the traits of your Judases ? Crazy how relationships can get at times, Judas had his feet washed by his master at some point . How can you really…
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The Beauty of Being Single – feature 02
It is not a rosy path that I am about to lead you on. This journey probably begins with you crawling to the corner of your room, curling yourself into a delicate ball of misery, and your shattered heart out. It doesn’t matter who broke up with who. The end result remains the same; a heart that had learned how to beat for two people needs to relearn how to sing a solo and the first song is always the saddest. Mourn, break apart, grieve. When you’re done, fed up with the storm and all its lightning and thunder, come with me and we’ll find that rainbow and the pot…
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7 Things Boyfriends do wrong
Men have given themselves pride in being the fountains of knowledge. They have unearthed great mysterious and discovered groundbreaking information about the universe. I mean they have created and destroyed governments just by using words. Their power comes from their knowledge of things but sad enough Men do not know women. Men do things and tell their friends they nailed it when they straight up annoyed or grossed out their women. Or worse. * Women are not experiments, objects or mere matter which makes it challenging for men to understand how women operate. There’s no scientific or mathematical equation to comprehend women and yet men (me excluded), still want to…
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Make peace with your ex- Feature 01
‘Make peace with your past’ the cliche is probably as old as time itself. Time itself has revealed that it heals all the pain… well to those who confront their pain and deal with it. Time is the constant you are the reactant! So the sooner you react and deal with source of your pain the sooner you will heal. So yes… ‘make peace with your ex’ because he/she is part of your past, a past that can never be escaped nor erased. You might be reading this thinking maybe I am probably asking you to dine with your ex … No! It’s no secret breakups can leave you hurt…
