Roles of a boyfriend. Sounds like a full job with a corner office, a medical aid benefit and pension lined up. Recently, the roles have been confusing. They’re mostly stuck between husband , friend with benefit, ATM and father. To clear the air, we will discuss this. ( Post your views in the Comment section)
What are the roles of a boyfriend ? ( Your opinion)
Honestly the mature role of a boyfriend is to give emotional support. A boyfriend should be a support system, offering love and care to his girlfriend which of course should be reciprocated. Financial support should be the cherry on top in a relationship not a foundation
Thulisile
This is going to sound controversial but here goes. A boyfriend should have the same roles as a girlfriend. Differentiating roles based on gender is what causes so much strife in relationships. Universally, we can all agree that a partner should be supportive, loving, caring, dependable etc… This concept of expecting men to be financial providers, to be endlessly patient in the face of unnecessary drama, to be protective and be unwavering pillars of strength opens the way to unhealthy and unbalanced relationships. The role of a boyfriend is the role of any partner. Love, support, patience, the bare basics. Anything more is above and beyond and quite frankly, dysfunctional.
Sbhoe
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Mimie
He should just have money..and everything else will fall into place
Boy.friend
Is Money the role in this case ?
Valeria
To love, care and support. And by support someone to motivate you, your shoulder to cry on etc.
Jay
I think sometimes go about this dating the wrong way. Once you get into a relationship you become an orphan you expect your boyfriend to provide for all your needs even the things you can do for yourself. That’s why at the end of the day you get asked questions like what are you bringing in this relationship? All you do is act like a “ baby bird” that just opens up and expect to be fed.
Boy.friend
So what’s the best approach to this dating thing ? What is the role of the boyfriend in all this ?
Thandie♡
▪Attention giving (undivided attention)
▪Emotional support
▪Support both physically and economically(If he wants to, him giving us money is just him being generous because money is not part of his roles in the relationship )
▪Unconditional love
▪Tirelessly being patient
▪Always being the greater part to apologize even if he is correct because we women can be difficult*
Boy.friend
On your last point , what happens when you as a woman should apologize? Do you wait for him to beg or confront you to apologize?
Thandie♡
If you don’t confront me I’ll just think I’m not wrong so I don’t see any need to appologise. But not all of the women are like that, some just appologise and accept that they are wrong
Boy.friend
That’s a valid point
Thulisile Naomi Mpabanga
Honestly the mature role of a boyfriend is to give emotional support. A boyfriend should be a support system, offering love and care to his girlfriend which of course should be reciprocated. Financial support should be the cherry on top in a relationship not a foundation
Nikki
In my opnion, the boyfriend should be your bestfriend before anything.i’ll just list a few of his roles :1.shower the gf with attention
2.always be there both in good and bad times
3.make sure he isn’t the cause of her unhappiness
4.emotional support
Well e list is almost endless i jc mentioned a few…and this also goes both ways to have a perfectly healty relationship
Boy.friend
On 3. How does he do that ?
Nikki
Well depends on what kind of a girlfriend you have…as the boyfriend you shld know whats is it that she likes and doesn’t. For instance some like being given girlfriends allowances all the the time and some don’t. A boyfriend should be able to read his partner’s signs.Anyway iy shouldnt be one sided again..he cant do staff tat makes her happy when hes not
Boy.friend
That’s profound
Boy.friend
I asked Nomusa to give her boyfriend allowance as a joke. Would you give him allowance?
Nikki♡
Well!! I would if i can…it doesn’t make sense if we both earn money from somewhere and he has to spend it on both of us..and I spend mine on myself only..😂
Sbhoe
This is going to sound controversial but here goes. A boyfriend should have the same roles as a girlfriend. Differentiating roles based on gender is what causes so much strife in relationships. Universally, we can all agree that a partner should be supportive, loving, caring, dependable etc… This concept of expecting men to be financial providers, to be endlessly patient in the face of unnecessary drama, to be protective and be unwavering pillars of strength opens the way to unhealthy and unbalanced relationships. The role of a boyfriend is the role of any partner. Love, support, patience, the bare basics. Anything more is above and beyond and quite frankly, dysfunctional.
Boy.friend
That’s an interesting view, the next discussion is actually on the roles of a girlfriend.
Fungisai
I think the role of a boyfriend is basically just being a friend to his girlfriend, be there for his girl, support her in everything, be her adviser in every aspect of her life and ofcourse love her the way she wants to be loved
Nomusa
1.The role of a boyfriend give her your ears anytime she needs them. Every women desires a man who can listen to her whenever she needs attention.
2. Comfort her and offer emotional support. Women are very emotional and sometimes they just need to share their problems with. If she needs a shoulder to cry on, give it to her and comfort her
3.the role of a boyfriend in a relo is to protect her and make sure she feels safe when she’s around you. Always show are you are concerned about her safety and you are willing to protect her.
These roles apply in both parties not just boyfriends.
Boy.friend
What about money, money seems to make most things happen
Nomusa
My job must play the role of providing me with money not my boyfriend. If he’s willing to give me money then he can do so but we have to bear in mind that a boyfriend is not financial breakthrough. It’s not only a boyfriend’s money that makes most things happen, mine also make things happen for me😂
Boy.friend
You should give him Boyfriend allowances 💭
Kiki♡
Am not sure if TRUST is a role…but the boyfriend should trust his girlfriend especially during the times one trusts her…being able to stand for her always
Boy.friend
It could be but isn’t trust earned ? What happens when that trust is broken ?
Kiki♡
It has to be earned back no matter how long it takes..and made aure its not broken again.