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    Am I Yours , Truly?

    This is a response to yours Truly by MaMo MaMo, Our union has been nothing short of amazing but maybe it belongs in the past because it has been tense for a while now. I do apologize for using your emotions as a crutch for some time . We were so in love, I failed to realize you loved me more than I deserved. I’ve taken you for granted in so many ways and the guilt becomes heavier to burden. My masculine toxicity doesn’t justify how distant and nonchalant I was when you needed my affection. I can’t keep doing this to you and our beautiful daughter. The man you…

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    Dates – Boyfriend thoughts

    Thoughts that stay hidden. I actually agreed to this? Man! This is really stupid, I sabotaged myself here. But if it makes her happy, then I’m happy. Uhh, that’s not even comforting… I need a beer. Or 2. Why don’t I do that instead? Then I’d get dumbed… Pull it together. Brain… Focus. Date. Ideas. Somewhere quiet. Great food. And definitely where I don’t know people. Damn, what if I meet my ex. Or my friend’s girlfriend. Do I tell the gents about this date before or after? They will have a field day of laughter. Who cares, I’ll have a good time. And laugh at the next person. Brain.…

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    Umjolo Interview : Questions to ask

    This is a follow up to “We need a dating resume“. Umjolo is serious business! Yeah, if it’s meant to be it will happen but who will teach the kids Maths Susan? Can your back handle things? Are you in debt? Does your father have medical aid? See, it all matters. These are questions you should ask yourself when thinking long term. ( Not a small dating tender). These are not to make you bail from your relationship, they’re just a guide to see where you could improve. Compromise. ( or worst case re evaluate the whole relationship) The Questions to Ask Do you and your partner accept each other for…

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    Why they don’t want a relationship with you?

    You click with them but they don’t pop the question. And this happens with a couple of guys and you think maybe you’re the problem. ( which is quite possible so let’s go with that angle.) They treat you just right and you at times feel like they’re the one. ( Ladies/ Gents really). So what are you doing wrong? Let’s get to it, these are all hypothetical but if this hypothetical shoe fits, remove it and burn it. You send missed signals You’re hot then you’re cold You’re “Yes” then you’re “No” You’re in then you’re out You’re up then you’re down  Katy Perry Signals have to match the message. Imagine if a zebra crossing line was coupled with a no stopping sign. That’s my…

  • Dating,  Mind of a boyfriend

    Clear signs the person you’re dating is worth your time

    So much negativity going around in relationships, this is to tell you it’s all bad. These are the signs that the person you’re dating is right for you and is worth your time. ( Of course they might be some differences ) You are comfortable with who you are Not itching to impress your potential  is essential, that way they can get to know the real you, with no filters. If you feel comfortable enough to let your guard down and be yourself,I don’t mean wearing crocs,  that is a great sign that your relationship is heading in on the right tracks. They keep their word Green Flag central .Doing what they say…

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    Her Red flags : Mind of a Girlfriend P.O.V

    Let’s go over red flags to look out for in the dating phase. Boyfriend, the aim is to lessen or avoid the heartbreaks that come with mjolo. Because you matter. By the way, a red flag is a sign or warning of any impending danger, disaster or doom. Let’s not waste time and jump right on it. 🚩 Condescending A woman who treats you like a child. Dear boyfriend say aaaah. Open wide. In comes a spoonful of disrespect. Swallow baby, it’s good for your health. Your eyesight maybe! To help you see that allowing a woman to take a superiority role/tone over you in the early stages of dating…

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    Expectations Versus Reality : Relationships

    So many people are caught in limbo for so long and lose touch with reality. Social media gives this pseudo-reality that comes with expectations that may be true in fantasies and Telemundo. This is a relationship version of what you buy online and what you get. Or what you order over the counter and what you get. … This piece is a collaboration between myself (His) and Nicole (Hers) , Humanity Boss, and this is what we have to say. ( Go check out her blog, you’ll thank me, and probably have to pay me). … His : Happiness is found in a relationship If you can’t happiness on your…

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    This is what they don’t tell you about relationships.

    It’s been a long time coming and it’s here. Humans, I finally got the opportunity to collaborate with the Humanity Boss herself, Nicole. … Selfies, matching socks, wallpapers or whatever! The stuff of dreams. The idea of a relationship has a lot of us imagining things and daydreaming till we start believing love songs. The truth is, relationships are beautiful. Who wouldn’t want to be pampered and given pet names or flaunted like the most precious gem on earth? But, relationships in all honesty aren’t sunshines all year, otherwise they’d be illegal or sanctioned or even turned into some form of edible. So here are the things they don’t tell…

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    Why I’m single. Relate?

    I’ve been asked why I’m single a couple of times like it’s a handicap. ( Or maybe it is, I don’t know anymore). These are MY reasons, you could relate. Let’s jump right into it. I am tired Relationship are beautiful and all but I am tired. For now. I don’t have the energy to talk and try to build something from scratch only to feel void. I don’t think a relationship is what I need right now. And I don’t want to know a new person’s favorite color, what they’re doing every few minutes and definitely don’t have energy for you-hang-up arguments. I am broke Yes. I am broke…

  • Dating,  Mind of a boyfriend

    We need a Dating Resume!

    Hello Humans, You read that right, we need a résumé e to go with the talking phase and whatever comes after. Don’t get me wrong, it doesn’t have to be something typed out (but that would be cool), but the contents of it matters. Let me explain what I mean. We jump into relationships with emotions flying all over, following “vibes” but we miss the little essential questions that could make or break a relationship. So we need to approach how we get to know people like we’re making a Resume for them. We need to avoid popayism at all costs. Makes sense? When you’re accepting resumes/CV, there are requirements…

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