I talk about flying far away from assuming and I fell into the trap myself. I assumed my way into boundaries that weren’t meant for me. I realized I’d kill for people who would never pull a chair out for me. So much is masked in familiarity and history and we mistake all that for friendship. I believe I’m a friendly person and thinking I shared the same sentiments as some people was wrong. I know better now. There’s always a catch with some of these ‘friendships’ , don’t get me wrong , I have decent relationships with my people. But time and experience has shown me which people are…
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4 Signs that he has lost interest in you
Ah, The One That Got Away. Or the one on his way out. You think you know everything about him—his favorite color, his favorite food, his favorite genre of movies—but it’s only when you realize he doesn’t love you anymore that you realize you never really knew. Communication dies Communication is an important component of any relationship. It’s even more important when times get tough.If your partner suddenly stops trying to communicate with you in conversation, that’s a real red flag. The lack of intimacy The lack of intimacy is one of the biggest signs of a failing relationship. So, if he isn’t making an effort to be close to…
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Signs you’ve been gaslighted
I find myself explaining gaslighting every once in a while and I figured why not share my views. Relationships are complicated on their own, add power dynamics in the mix and things get a little messy. With people carrying a host of personalities, conditioning, up bringing and beliefs, some things may seem justifiable. Gaslighting is a subtle form of abuse that may stem from all the makings of a person, be it culture, religion, personality amongst other domains without being instantly noticeable. I don’t conform to most things that people subscribe to which makes me angry when they use certain domains to justify their sick behaviours. It is a form…
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Am I Yours , Truly?
This is a response to yours Truly by MaMo MaMo, Our union has been nothing short of amazing but maybe it belongs in the past because it has been tense for a while now. I do apologize for using your emotions as a crutch for some time . We were so in love, I failed to realize you loved me more than I deserved. I’ve taken you for granted in so many ways and the guilt becomes heavier to burden. My masculine toxicity doesn’t justify how distant and nonchalant I was when you needed my affection. I can’t keep doing this to you and our beautiful daughter. The man you…
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How to get over your ex
How to get over your ex sounds too ambitious. Let’s go with how to detox them instead. It’s a process and it’s not an easy one. A lot goes into it especially if the relationship was a long one. But it can be done, small steps. Clear your chest When you do break up, there are a lot of emotions flying around. Those could be hurt, anger, disappointment, whatever they are, resolve them. The final talk you have with them should be the only closure you need. Depending on the circumstances of the break up, get ‘why’ answered. Then accept that it didn’t work out. ( Don’t blame yourself if…
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Dates – Boyfriend thoughts
Thoughts that stay hidden. I actually agreed to this? Man! This is really stupid, I sabotaged myself here. But if it makes her happy, then I’m happy. Uhh, that’s not even comforting… I need a beer. Or 2. Why don’t I do that instead? Then I’d get dumbed… Pull it together. Brain… Focus. Date. Ideas. Somewhere quiet. Great food. And definitely where I don’t know people. Damn, what if I meet my ex. Or my friend’s girlfriend. Do I tell the gents about this date before or after? They will have a field day of laughter. Who cares, I’ll have a good time. And laugh at the next person. Brain.…
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Why they don’t want a relationship with you?
You click with them but they don’t pop the question. And this happens with a couple of guys and you think maybe you’re the problem. ( which is quite possible so let’s go with that angle.) They treat you just right and you at times feel like they’re the one. ( Ladies/ Gents really). So what are you doing wrong? Let’s get to it, these are all hypothetical but if this hypothetical shoe fits, remove it and burn it. You send missed signals You’re hot then you’re cold You’re “Yes” then you’re “No” You’re in then you’re out You’re up then you’re down Katy Perry Signals have to match the message. Imagine if a zebra crossing line was coupled with a no stopping sign. That’s my…
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What are we?
What are we? Really? I could think of a lot of savage responses to answer that but failing to answer that question is cruelty. Question interpretation ” I see what we’re doing, I’ve caught feelings and I would like to know if there’s a future in this or I should start looking for a pet to love …Or we do what I want” Thoughts I honestly don’t see the reason to get to that point, people need to be clear about their intentions. It’s not fair to lead someone on just to have them “see how it goes”. Titles matter as much as each stage of a relationship. There’s no…
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Her Red flags : Mind of a Girlfriend P.O.V
Let’s go over red flags to look out for in the dating phase. Boyfriend, the aim is to lessen or avoid the heartbreaks that come with mjolo. Because you matter. By the way, a red flag is a sign or warning of any impending danger, disaster or doom. Let’s not waste time and jump right on it. 🚩 Condescending A woman who treats you like a child. Dear boyfriend say aaaah. Open wide. In comes a spoonful of disrespect. Swallow baby, it’s good for your health. Your eyesight maybe! To help you see that allowing a woman to take a superiority role/tone over you in the early stages of dating…
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Expectations Versus Reality : Relationships
So many people are caught in limbo for so long and lose touch with reality. Social media gives this pseudo-reality that comes with expectations that may be true in fantasies and Telemundo. This is a relationship version of what you buy online and what you get. Or what you order over the counter and what you get. … This piece is a collaboration between myself (His) and Nicole (Hers) , Humanity Boss, and this is what we have to say. ( Go check out her blog, you’ll thank me, and probably have to pay me). … His : Happiness is found in a relationship If you can’t happiness on your…
