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    Disrespect in relationships

    Respect makes everything better but when people get comfortable they become monsters. Some levels of entitlement are the basis of disrespect in relationships. Sometimes,  it’s just too much comfort, or popayism from the other person. Or whatever. Failing to Communicate There’s nothing as infuriating as a bad communicator. It’s dangerous to work on assumptions or vibes alone, communication makes things clear. If you don’t want something say it, if you’re angry express it and if you’re tired of the relationship say it. Don’t resort to starting a new relationship without ending the one you’re in because you can’t communicate. Going through their phone Yes transparency is necessary,  so is privacy.…

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    Their Male bestfriend- Discussion

    The holy grail of topics, well after cheating and gossip topics of course. How do you keep your cool and security intact in a scenario where her bestfriend is a guy ? Jealousy and insecurity are very unattractive and cancerous but how on earth do you keep those in check when Bestie is there ? These people have been friends before you even came to the picture. Chances are the reason why she said yes was because of him, ever thought of that ? And that’s also scary, if he has that much influence, what else can he achieve. What if he’s madly in love with your girlfriend and he’s…

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    About Dating Yourself – ReUP

    Relationships are a like tango. You need a partner to dance with. Most relationships begin at a high note and over time, the energy fades and eventually it becomes a one player game. Solo dance. If you start noticing the following signs, chances are you’re dating yourself. You text a whole scroll, the response comes in one sentence. People in love will always have a lot to talk about. However, if you realize that in most occasions that you communicate with your partner, the response you get is just a mere word, one emoji or no response at all, just start packing because you are not required in this relationship. You…

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    What’s the Spice ?

    I’ve always battled with understanding what makes relationships tick the way they do. At some point I attributed everything to fate, soul mates they call it. How do they keep going after so many years ? What’s the secret behind these long term relationships? It’s easier to say it’s destiny but destiny has given most of us bruises and emotional knock outs. Karma has taken matters of the heart and made us victims of crimes we did and didn’t commit. Yet still, some people have mastered the art of staying in a relationship more than 4 years. What sorcery is that ?What’s the spice? Ingredients to great relationships exist, not…

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    About Spotting “Toxic people “

    Toxic people are everywhere. EVERYWHERE. I cannot begin to count all the people I’ve had to escape. ( All 4 of them ). But do not mistake boring or annoying people for being toxic, some people are naturally undesirable. The odd thing is the most toxic people are the ones closest to you. The ones that have enough ammunition to crucify you. Them showing teeth doesn’t mean they’re always smiling, that could be them biting. Wouldn’t you want to know the traits of your Judases ? Crazy how relationships can get at times, Judas had his feet washed by his master at some point . How can you really tell if someone…

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    Take with warm Water

    The bitterest pills to swallow are often the most easily available. They’re right there on the surface but blindness is the first impulse to them. It’s painful to acknowledge certain realities because that would make our lives unstable. That being the case, it’s easier to live in a fantasy than facing the real world but that ends now. That’s if you’re ready to accept it. If not, I hope some day, you will face people and situations for what they really are. Being trash is not gendered The narrative is “men are trash” and that goes without analysis right. The implication is that women don’t cheat ,they don’t lie and…

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    About Spotting “Toxic People”

    Toxic people are everywhere. EVERYTHING . I cannot begin to count all the people I’ve had to escape. ( All 4 of them ). But do not mistake boring or annoying people for being toxic, some people are naturally undesirable. The odd thing is the most toxic people are the ones closest to you. The ones that have enough ammunition to crucify you. Them showing teeth doesn’t mean they’re always smiling, that could be them biting. Wouldn’t you want to know the traits of your Judases ? Crazy how relationships can get at times, Judas had his feet washed by his master at some point . How can you really…

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    The Beauty of Being Single – feature 02

    It is not a rosy path that I am about to lead you on. This journey probably begins with you crawling to the corner of your room, curling yourself into a delicate ball of misery, and your shattered heart out. It doesn’t matter who broke up with who. The end result remains the same; a heart that had learned how to beat for two people needs to relearn how to sing a solo and the first song is always the saddest. Mourn, break apart, grieve. When you’re done, fed up with the storm and all its lightning and thunder, come with me and we’ll find that rainbow and the pot…

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    About “Mastering Long Distance Relationships”

    Relationships are the stuff of legends. They are fascinating . The long awkward stares, the sweet nothings we say and the funny smiles. The connection that rips your soul out and gives it a gentle massage and a happy ending. There’s nothing more beautiful that sharing attention, respect , care , trust and chemistry. All these little elements bring a profound bond that locks the rest of the world out. The problems that arise from within can only be understood and solved by those involved and the feeling of going through a storm together is only matched by winning the lottery. Add distance to the mix, then everything changes. Long distance…

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    About “Mastering Long Distance Relationships”

    Relationships are the stuff of legends. They are fascinating . The long awkward stares, the sweet nothings we say and the funny smiles. The connection that rips your soul out and gives it a gentle massage and a happy ending. There’s nothing more beautiful that sharing attention, respect , care , trust and chemistry. All these little elements bring a profound bond that locks the rest of the world out. The problems that arise from within can only be understood and solved by those involved and the feeling of going through a storm together is only matched by winning the lottery. Add distance to the mix, then everything changes. Long…

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