Family can make or break us. I mean, it makes sense seeing as they’re our first base of socialization but for some deviled reasons, we have more people who are messed up by families. We often find toxicity in our relationships and friendships but ignore family because it feels wrong to point these things out. I’ll do it for you. Here are some toxic traits we need to break in families
Using religion/culture to control children
Not believing in mental health
Gas lighting
Gaslighting and general lack of accountability makes the bulk of family drama. Someone could spend weeks, even months talking about something specific about someone else, and then regret it and act like you’re crazy for feeling the same way when you bring it up again later. When you feed people their own meal, they say it’s poisoned. And I must say, families can get exceptional good at gaslighting, they can put words in your mouth and fight you for it. That reall
Comparing children
comparing children to others as if it’s a competition. So what the neighbor’s child has 10 gold medals in athletics, I have asthma, I literally run out of breath and you want me to compete with someone who actually runs. While being compared to strangers sucks, what’s worse is being compared to relatives. If they want the qualities of other children, they should consider adopting that person and leave us be. Comparison kills creativity and being compared to other people kills esteem and personality.
Passive aggression
Not respecting boundaries
Yes you fathered me but that doesn’t mean you don’t knock when I’m changing. Boundaries don’t only stop there, some families fail to accept your choices and life decisions and they want to indoctrinate their beliefs into your life. That has to stop.
